El ukuxhatshazwa Yenye yeengxaki ezothusayo kuluntu lwanamhlanje nakwimeko yemfundo. Abanye abantu abadumileyo bachaze ukuba bangamaxhoba ohlobo oluthile lokuhlukunyezwa. Umdlali weqonga UVanessa Romero, umbhali wencwadi ethi "Reflections of a blonde." Okanye umlingisi uNacho Guerreros, obunye bobuso beLa que se avecina, ngumbhali wencwadi: "Nam ndiye ndahlupheka." Ixesha lobuchwephesha likwanefuthe ekuveleni kwale ngxaki ukusukela ngoku, uxinzelelo lunokude luye kwi-Intanethi. Enye yeencwadi ezilungileyo ngalo mbandela "yi-Bullying, El acoso Escolar". Incwadi kaWilliam Voors.
Ngaphambi kwe- ityala lokuhlukumeza Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abazali nootitshala bakhuthaze unxibelelwano oluqhubekayo. Ngamanye amagama, umzuzu apho abazali benalo naluphi na urhano, kufuneka balazise kutitshala kunye nenqununu yesikolo.
Akusoloko kulula ukubona into eyenzekayo kuba, ngamanye amaxesha, ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa liyakufihla okwenzekayo kuye ngenxa yoloyiko okanye ihlazo. Abazali nootitshala bayindawo ebaluleke kakhulu yenkxaso yomfundi kumlo wokulwa nokuxhatshazwa. Incwadi ebichazwe ngaphambili «Ukuhlukumeza: Ukuxhatshazwa kwabafundi» sisixhobo esiluncedo kakhulu sokuxhasa ukufumana ulwazi. Ziintoni iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa?
Iziphumo ezenziwa kukuhlukunyezwa kwixhoba
1. Utyekelo lokuzahlula. Ukubandezeleka kokuhlukunyezwa kukhokelela kukuphindaphindeka kwezicwangciso zedwa. Umntwana okanye umntwana ofikisayo unoloyiko lokudibana nabanye ngokuziva egculelwa ngabanye afunda nabo.
2. Umntwana wonwabile ngempelaveki okanye eseholideyini kunaphakathi evekini xa kufuneka esiya esikolweni. Imeko-bume yesikolo yile unobangela wentlungu, ukubandezeleka noxinzelelo emntwaneni. Oko kukuthi, phila esi siqhelo ngendlela engalunganga. Ke ngoko, ukuba lusizi luphawu olunokubakho lokuxhaphaza.
3. Ngokubanzi, ukukhathazeka kunye nokubandezeleka ukuba amava omfundi ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa anefuthe kwiimvakalelo zabo nakwimeko yokugxila. Ngesi sizathu, umntwana unokuba neziphumo zovavanyo ezibi.
4. Ukuzijongela phantsi. Ukuqhula kukuchukumisa ngokweemvakalelo. Oko kukuthi, ngelixa ii-caresses ezintle zizinto ezibonelela ukwamkelwa eluntwini, ngokuchaseneyo, ukukrexeza kuchaphazela umbono ozimeleyo umntu lowo anawo ngaye. Umntu uzijonga ngesipili esigqwethekileyo sengxelo ayifumanayo kwabanye. Ngamanye amagama, ingenisa ngaphakathi eminye yemiyalezo eyifumanayo.
5. Ukukhathazeka nokungonwabi kunokuchaphazela nemiba yemihla ngemihla ye Indlela yokuphila yabantwana okanye umntwana ofikisayo. Umzekelo, umfundi akasakonwabeli ukwenza izinto awayezithanda ngaphambili. Ukusuka kwimbono yokutya kunokubakho iindlela ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Okanye unokuphazama ukulambela ixhala. Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ixhala linokuvelisa uhlobo lweqhina esiswini eliphanga ukutya. Kuyakwenzeka ukuba ukuxhaphaza kuboniswe ngeempawu ezingazi nto ezinje ngamaphupha amabi ebusuku.
6. Ngokombono wakhe, ixhoba linokubonakala limfiliba kwaye linomzimba omncinci. Into enesiphumo sokulahleka kokungazenzisi.